taliciaem:

Day 24: What are your thoughts on homophobia? Is it really a phobia or an excuse to spread hatred. 

Well I think for most people the hate stems from the fear although they would not admit the root is fear towards the LGBTQA community and the unknown. They hate the LGBTQA community because they dont understand and either are incapable because of their biggoted views or just don’t want to try to understand. 

But then there are those who start out homophobic and cruel about it but once educated can turn around a bit and see that perhaps the way they were thinking towards people in the community was wrong and hateful. I know a few people who were like that, constantly calling gay people ‘faggot’ and ‘fag’ and cringing when they would walk by holding hands or if they kissed in front of them, but since they are my friend I made it known of my sexuality and answered any questions they had on the subject: about how it’s nto a choice, and love is something everyone should be able to experience, and how would you like it if you walked by with your partner and people cringed and made derogatory comments to you? It’s definitely helped. They still are a little cringy about it at times, but I think they are starting to understand and at least stopped using the words ‘faggot’ and ‘fag’ in reference. So that’s a start eh?

Some people say that being gay is unnatural and I somewhat agree. If you are put on this earth a heterosexual being, then yes, being homosexual or anything other is unnatural to you because that’s not how you are, however, there are those like me who weren’t created heterosexual and to those people (namely homosexuals) being hetero. is whats unnatural. Just because the majority is straight does not mean that it is right to be that way and wrong to be anything other. Just like because there are more white people around than black that one is better because they are white. Segregation is absolutely ridiculous, just as is homophobia, and hopefully a few years from now people will be able to see that and look back to realize how shameful such behaviour towards the LGBTQA was.

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taliciaem:

Day 24: What are your thoughts on homophobia? Is it really a phobia or an excuse to spread hatred. 

Well I think for most people the hate stems from the fear although they would not admit the root is fear towards the LGBTQA community and the unknown. They hate the LGBTQA community because they dont understand and either are incapable because of their biggoted views or just don’t want to try to understand. 

But then there are those who start out homophobic and cruel about it but once educated can turn around a bit and see that perhaps the way they were thinking towards people in the community was wrong and hateful. I know a few people who were like that, constantly calling gay people ‘faggot’ and ‘fag’ and cringing when they would walk by holding hands or if they kissed in front of them, but since they are my friend I made it known of my sexuality and answered any questions they had on the subject: about how it’s nto a choice, and love is something everyone should be able to experience, and how would you like it if you walked by with your partner and people cringed and made derogatory comments to you? It’s definitely helped. They still are a little cringy about it at times, but I think they are starting to understand and at least stopped using the words ‘faggot’ and ‘fag’ in reference. So that’s a start eh?

Some people say that being gay is unnatural and I somewhat agree. If you are put on this earth a heterosexual being, then yes, being homosexual or anything other is unnatural to you because that’s not how you are, however, there are those like me who weren’t created heterosexual and to those people (namely homosexuals) being hetero. is whats unnatural. Just because the majority is straight does not mean that it is right to be that way and wrong to be anything other. Just like because there are more white people around than black that one is better because they are white. Segregation is absolutely ridiculous, just as is homophobia, and hopefully a few years from now people will be able to see that and look back to realize how shameful such behaviour towards the LGBTQA was.

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taliciaem:

Day 23: If there was a gay gene, and it was detectable early in pregnancy, would you abort your child knowing this ahead of time? Explain your answer.

No, I wouldn’t, because there’s nothing wrong w/ being gay and that would be changing who my child is in a way. As long as it’s not life-threatening (which being gay can be I suppose, but it’s not being gay so much that’s the issue, it’s the idiots around that person that drive them to take their lives) then I would never use a drug to make my kid not gay if there were such a thing, nor would i ever abort a child for being gay.

On the other hand, on the for side as opposed to being against it above, I know how hard it is for some to be gay and a part of the LGBTQA and all I would want is to protect my child and keep them safe. So I can see why some parents would abort if that’s their reasoning because the world is cruel and all, but I would not do it. I’d protect that child with my life, and if anyone tried to mess with my baby because he/she is different they’d deff. have to deal with mamma bear!

May be easier to be heterosexual, but doesn’t mean it’s the only way to go or normal or right, and so if my child were gay and it was detectable before birth, during pregnancy, that wouldn’t change a thing, I would still love that child unconditionally.

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taliciaem:

Day 22: Do you know anyone of the LGBTQA community, and has your views/feelings towards that person changed for the better or worse since your discovery that they are of the LGBTQA community?

Uh ..yeah - me! And my thoughts aren’t that much different. Still think I’m a piece of crap as I always was.

But I knew I was bi. since age 12, and it never caused me any grief, or negatively affected me in any way, so yeah ..that thought pattern didn’t change. I still know sexuality to be out of our control, as is who you fall in love with, and if only I can say this for one thing about myself, I’ll never be ashamed of being anything other than hetero.

I’ll always be supportive of anyone/everyone of the LGBTQA who chooses to confide in me, and they should they know they can talk to me about anything. :)

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taliciaem:

Day 21: “I hear gays will hit on anything that moves, recruit children, and have sex in public bathrooms!” What are your thoughts on these and other similar ridiculous myths of the LGBTQA community?

It’s absolutely ridiculous! All those things aren’t specifically ‘gay’. That could hold true for anyone regardless of their sexuality! It depends on the person. It’s as idiotic as saying ‘Hitler was German so it’s likely that everyone from Germany is a Nazi’ or like in the show I am watching currently, True Blood, if a vampire goes around killing everyone and everything in it’s path the entire race is to be treated as mass-murderers even though it was one particular one who did all those awful things and there are those out there who would never.

“Gays will hit on anything that moves” - Depends on the person, not their sexuality. There are people like that who are straight as well. There are straight people who do the same, there are gay people who do as well. There are straight people who are more intraverted as well as there are straight people who are more intraverted. Some gay people are extremely flamboyant and feminine, and some are macho and butch. 

I hate the use of sterotypes and labels so much. Just because ONE person does something, doesn’t mean everyone else in the world with a similar characteristic to them (age, race, gender, sexuality etc) is the exact same way. Not all teenagers are rebeleous and rude. Not all black people are african americans. Not all women are weak because we tend to be smaller than men, feminists, or attracted to men for that matter. Just as not all men are attracted to women. 

Just because someone is gay does not make them contageous to be around, or wrong, hellbound, or more prone to hitting on you. I am more gay than I am straight and unless I knew for sure that the other person was into me I would not even attempt to flirt with them. Yes there are those who are like that and keep pressing you, whether they be gay or straight, but just because I am somewhat gay, just because I’m into women doesn’t mean I will hit on or be attracted to every woman I meet.

The “they recruit children” thing is just idiotic. Quite laughable actually. Gay people are not recruited! They’re born!! I was not approached on the street one day by someone of the LGBTQA community with pamphlets and sweets saying “Come be gay with me, it’s awesome, and we have candy!” I was born this way! I was never recruited, nor did I wake up one morning and decide “you know what, I think I’m going to be bisexual today and be cast out by my family” and a genie popped out of a lamp, waved his hands, wiggled his fingers and yelled “No takesies backsies!” and dissapeared in a cloud of smoke leaving me “stuck” like this.

Now, with the “public bathrooms” thing… again, that’s not sexuality that’s due to personality. If two people decide they are going to engage in lewd behaviour in public it’s not driven by their sexuality it’s most likely driven by their lack of morality not their sexual preference; meaning, you could just as easily be straight and be inappropriate in public as you can being gay, and also that is not a generalization of all gay people. I would never do that and I’m gay (well ..somewhat).

I’ve always been terrible at explaining things and I have a huge tendancy to go waaaay off-topic, and surely that’s what I’ve done here, but *shrugs* ..meh ..this is my view on this.

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taliciaem:

Day 20: Should the right to marry be universal regardless of age (providing both are legal of course), gender, or sexual orientation?

Absolutely!

Age (providing both are consenting adults (in my opinion 19 or older)) and they love eachother, the age gap should not matter. I was just talking about this with my Mom and sister (specifically Pana Hema Taylor, who plays Nasir on the show Spartacus (who is around my age, just turned 22 or 23) and his wife who is twice his age at 43 er so). Now the thought, for me, of dating someone so much younger than me (or older) is kinda weird at the moment, but if I were in his or her situation and fell for someone as they did that had quite the number of years on me or was several years younger, it would not matter.

Gender and Sexual orientation are completely irrelevent as well. If you’re a gay girl and you fall for another girl, (or a straight girl who falls for a girl - as it is possible that that happens), a boy with a boy, a non-trans girl and a non-trans boy, or a trans girl and non-trans boy, trans girl and trans girl, trans boy and trans boy, trans boy and a non-trans girl …it DOES NOT MATTER!! 

Love is love, and so long as there’s an abundance of it there between these people, none of the above factors should make a difference, nor should you let anyone in society tell you that because of certain ones in place in your situation (you could add race to this as well, ie. my dad is black and my mom is white and way back when their marriage would have been illegal also) you’re wrong and shouldn’t be together or you’re going to hell.

So no, none of these things matter to me. If I were to fall for someone much older, or of the same sex, or a different race than me, none of that stuff would change my being with them if I truely love this person with all my heart.

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taliciaem:

Day 19: If someone is 100% certain in their heterosexuality, and has never, not once been attracted physically, mentally, or sexually to the same sex, do you believe it’s possible for that person to still fall for someone of the same sex?

Absolutely! I think that’s possible for anyone. We all have the ability to fall in love, and a lot of times it’s to someone we never in a million years would have expected it would be, and I definitely think sexual orientation makes no difference in the game of love.

I actually have an excellent example of this. One of my good friends, his name is Criss, is straight. As straight as they come, seriously. Constantly talking about girls, scoping them out when they walk by, tons of pin-ups on his walls, you know ..typical hetero. boy stuff. He’s always been attracted to women and although he’s 100% LGBTQA supportive, of me and the few other gay friends he has, he’s never been attracted to or wanted to be with a guy. The idea he told me always freaked him out so that was something we didn’t talk about.

However, Criss, is now in a relationship …with a guy!

I was the first person he came to about this, and he was beyond freaked out because this had NEVER happened to him before. When he first met him, he was out with some buddies, at this bar for his birthday, and one of them brought along some other guy (his name is Matt btw, and he’s bisexual). They connected very well and became great friends. After a while I noticed that often he would tell me he was going to go hang out with Matt here ..or there ..or do this or that ..and it stopped being with any of his usual friends, just Matt. One day when I was chatting with him online, he was talking a lot about Matt (again) and I kinda poked fun a bit and was like ‘sounds like someone’s got a lil crush’. I wasn’t serious or anything. He takes a while to respond and then when he did he was like ..’Uh.. I think I ..do’. 

They have been together for the past 2 years I believe, and are absolutely perfect for each other, but funny thing is I still see him as straight and he still identifies as such. He can appreciate a good-looking guy but it doesn’t go any further than that, just like I can say ‘Oh, she’s pretty’ and have it mean simply that not that I’m interested or attracted to this woman. He’s not attracted to men, and still, if we’re not talking about Matt, we’re talking about girls. To this day he’s still completely confused how their relationship works, but he legitimately loves Matt, he says so all the time and it’s obvious. But if they ever break up I highly doubt he’d be with another man.

Because he loves Matt he’s started finding some parts of the masculine form attractive, but only in reference to Matt. Guys don’t do it for him otherwise. I think it’s absolutely amazing and every day I find something I never knew about the human mind that just completely flabbergasts me. The brain is a powerful thing.

So yes, it’s absolutely possible to fall for someone of the same sex, and be in a same sex relationship, but still indentify as heterosexual.

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taliciaem:

Day 18: What is family to you?

People who love and support you no matter what, regardless of biological connection or otherwise. Simple as that. As I talked about in my previous answer, that could be any number of combinations. A mom. A Dad. Two moms. Two Dads. Grandmother. Friend. Neighbour. Anyone who looks after you, and genuinely cares for your well-being and safety and wants nothing more than for you to be happy. That’s what family is to me.

If I ever decide I want kids one day, and let’s say I fall in love with a woman and I wimp out and she carries our child, whether the baby is biologically connected to me (if we do it the way I would love to do it if I am ever in a same-sex relationship and want to start raising children with her, and implant my egg into her so she grows and nurtures the baby, is the baby’s birth mother and has that connection to her/him) or not (if we just go with a donor and her eggs) it doesn’t matter. I’ll still be that child’s parent, just as much as my partner, and we are just as much a family as any heterosexual based family.

They come in all types, shapes and sizes.

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taliciaem:

Day 17: Yes, it is true, gay couples cannot reproduce with one another, but if they are the most happy together and love each-other unconditionally, is the fact that they can’t make a baby together really a reason to split them up?

Absolutely not! By this logic, infertile couples should be split up because they’ll never be able to conceive a child together. Sound stupid? It is! It’s really rather sad that there are some homophobic people out there who use this as part of their argument as to why same sex couples should not be allowed to be together or start families. Absolutely insane!

And on another note, a family is not just a man, woman, and child. That is not what I would call the traditional family, I would call that the majority of familes. Doesn’t make them the ‘right’ kind of family, and it certainly does not make a same-sex couple and a child they are raising together any less of one.

A family could be a great number of combonations:

- Two men

- Two women

- A man and a woman

- A man, woman and kid(s)

- A mother and kid(s)

- A father and kid(s)

- A woman and her pet

- A man and his pet

- Two men and their pet

- Two women and their pet

- Man, woman and their pet

- A grandmother and grandkid(s)

- Two men and kid(s)

- Two women and kid(s)

You get the point. There isn’t just one type of family. And just because another family down the block doesn’t look as yours does or fit the way you think a family should look like, does not change the fact that they are.

What’s most important is not that a child has both a mother and a father, what is important is that they have two loving parents regardless of their genders! If I were ever to find love, with a woman, and should change my mind about having kids (I despise children so I don’t expect that to happen to I’m speaking hypothetically here) I do believe that my child should have a strong male figure in his/her life however, but that’s not anything to do with having a father figure, playing into the stereotype that the parental unit has to be ‘mommy’ ‘daddy’, but because I want my child to have that contact with both sexes because when he/she grows up they need to know how to interact with both as they find them in the world.

Bottom line, yes, man and woman are a must for reproduction purposes, but it is not a necessity for love, or to be a family. Heterosexual or homosexual, it does not matter when it comes to love because love knows no gender, and I just wish people could see that.

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taliciaem:

Day 16: If for one day you could walk in someone else’s shoes, someone with a sexual orientation other than yours, or is transgender rather than biological, how do you think you would feel? What would you learn from such an experience? 

Straight: I see myself as part straight, since I am bisexual and could end up in either a hetero or homo relationship, so I don’t think living as a straight person would be too far off to imagine. Only difference is all the rights that are beign denied those of the LGBTQ wouldn’t apply to me, and hopefully I would still be a huge supporter and understand that that is wrong and we deserve equality, rather than not give a crap because I’m straight and it’s not my issue. I could kiss, date, marry, be with anyone I wanted and no one would bat an eyelash.

Transgender: I suffer with depression on almost a daily basis as it is, so I can’t even begin to imagine how hard it must be at times being transgender. I have so much respect for trans people, and I know there is no way I could muster up that kind of courage and strength in myself to push through life being tormented by those around me. I honestly don’t think I could go through something as incredibly brave as transitioning. Those people deserve a huge round of applause. Doing what they have to do, not letting the world stop them, so they can live life happy and as themselves. Just because ‘God’ placed them in the wrong body, I don’t think that necessarily means he wanted them to suffer, or be in pain, though it’s hard to see it that way sometimes, there must be a reason why.

I agree with Jenna Talackova, who has said she believes she was put on this earth as an advocate, to help other young men and women in a similar situation to hers. It may have been a tough journey, but that made her even stronger, and pushed her that much harder to have the courage to be herself, who she always was inside. I think she’s an inspiration to the LGBTQA community, and to everyone for that matter, and I am so proud of how hard she’s fought already. Definitely a new idol of mine.

I think everyone needs to spend a week or so in someone elses shoes, so they can know just what it’s like and how hard it can be being part of the LGBTQA community. It’s not always easy to hold our heads high and push on with all sorts of people around us telling us we can’t, shouldn’t, or that we’re going to rot in hell. Frankly, as far as I’m concerned, God doesn’t care who you love, or your gender, he just wants you to be a good person.

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