…or think that it’s okay to be. First of all, it is, there is nothing wrong with being gay, so who gives a fuck if your kid is told that? Oh no! You’re child is going to turn out to be a more decent, accepting human being than you are - the HORROR!!
Secondly, if seeing gay people really does influence your kid and make her/him think s/he is gay then ..so what. If they really aren’t gay then they’ll grow out of that, and if they are..they are. Who gives a shit, as long as they are happy.
I don’t want children, but for the sake of my rant here, let’s pretend that I do. Okay, so I’m sitting at home waiting for my son to come home from school. When he does I ask him how his day was and if he made and friends and he says “It was good. There is a cute boy in my class that I like. He’s nice.” I would look at him, big smile on my face and say “What’s his name?” as simple as that.
I wouldn’t encourage or discourage his attraction to boys or girls, I would treat it equally because I want him to be able to make the decision for himself when it’s time whether he likes girls or boys (or both). I wouldn’t tell him “Oh dear, Hun, you shouldn’t like him, because boys shouldn’t like boys,” just as I wouldn’t tell him “Oh that is so awesome!” I, as a parent wouldn’t want what I say in that moment to affect his thinking negatively in any way so I’d be sure neither to praise or put him down for it, but just go along with what he wants.
I wouldn’t want to praise my son being gay, and not for the reason you might think. There is nothing wrong with being gay, and if my kid was I would make sure he knew that and that I’ll love him no matter what. But, I wouldn’t want him thinking that if I praised so much that he is for sure gay because I responded so happily about it or he needs to be this way from now on to make me happy, if it turns out just to be a phase, ya know?
Even though I know your sexuality is something that can be discovered pretty early (I have a couple friends who knew VERY young - Ex. my friend Deannah knew she was a lesbian (well, didn’t know there was a word for it, but she says her earliest memory of a crush on someone else was around then, and distinctly remembers it never happened with the boys) at the age of 6ish-7. Her parents didn’t want to believe that because she was so young and was “probably confused” but she never “grew out of it” like they hoped because she really is a lesbian. She’s never been attracted to men.) - I’d not want my son swayed at all by my thoughts or views.
I’d like him to be able to figure out on his own what he wants and hopefully then he’ll have developed no fear to bring a boy/girl home to meet/see me. I would want my son to know there’s no need for him to be “closeted”, so to speak, with his mother.
If I do have children, having my kid come to me without worry, with a boy/girl that they like, to meet me would be such fulfilling moment for me as a parent. Never would I want my children to be afraid to come to me for anything thinking that I would love them any less.
I actually think it’s very important for children to see gay couples just as much as hetero couples. Just as I think it’s important for a child of same-sex parents to still have contact with that of the other sex which is not raising him/her. If a child is being raised by two women I think it’s still necessary to have a male figure in his/her life, not because I think a child should only be raised by a man and a woman (because I don’t, that’s complete bullshit) but because I think having contact with both sexes is ..well.. important for the child so when s/he grows up s/he’ll be comfortable around them both. (I’m probably not making sense, lol, sorry, bad at explaining things.)
Seeing gay couples is good, and I would say crucial, because I would want my child to see that people come in all shapes and sizes and being different is not a bad thing, and I would make sure s/he knew that they should never try and change themselves because the world says they should. They need to be who they are, and no one else. Some people won’t like it, but fuck ‘em all. Not everyone is going to like you, and there’s no avoiding that, but it’s your life and you shouldn’t have to live it as someone else to make others happy, when you’re focus should be making yourself happy.
Seeing couples, not only gay, but any couple, that are in love is always a beautiful thing to me. Like it’s just them an the world. I often wish for that, and should it be with a man or a woman, it shouldn’t matter, cause it won’t for me, and it’s my life; no one else’s business. I would want my child to feel the same in that regard, and go after someone for love, and not simply because they are the gender the world expects/wants them to be with.
I’ve seen gay women couples out holding hands, as well as men, and of course a lot of straight couples, and as I see it, to me, in each instance I see the same thing - LOVE. It’s beautiful. If they are happy then good for them. Just because it bothers you to see, doesn’t give you the right to tell others they shouldn’t be together. Stay out of their fucking business and focus on your own love-life, is what I say.
So, overall, I think gay couples should be portrayed in the media more, and I really hope I live to see that day. I was in no way influenced to “become” gay, by seeing gay couples. Firstly, you don’t become, you either are or you’re not, it’s not a fucking choice, dammit. Second, I grew up in a Christian, dominantly homophobic home and I was raised completely by heterosexuals. Not once did I see a gay couple, person, or even hear my parents mention it; probably because they figured if they mentioned it I would be all like ‘Oh my god, I totally want to be like totally gay mom and dad!’ O_- lol. I didn’t even know anyone who was gay until high-school (mainly because I didn’t/don’t get out much), and I’ve known since I was 12 or possibly earlier that I was bisexual. Being around straight people didn’t influence me to think I was straight, or want to be, and so the same goes for the reverse. Being around gay people is not going to make you gay. You either are gay or you’re not. Homosexuality is not a fucking contagious disease.
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